Meet Monkey, my thirteen-year-old brother. His real name is
Treyson (“third” “son”), but I didn’t like that name at the time. I
channeled my inner preteen brat and renamed him Tanner, which I've called him ever since. A few years ago, I nicknamed him Monkey because he’s little and
always hangs on bigger people like the aforementioned primate. When Monk has
short hair he looks like this...
and when he has long hair and
makes this face, he looks like Robert De Niro.
I’m 11.5 years older than him
because he was an accident child, so our relationship is unique. When he came
into the world, I was old enough to realize that being an ass-hat to your younger
siblings is actually pretty wack. Also, I was young enough to be the cool older sister. I really like my brother. He’s arguably my favorite primate on
the planet, but let me be clear: I do not want to raise him. I get to take him
to movies, and stay up late with him, and break the rules. I don’t have to dole
out punishments, or make sure he gets to school on time, or question why he
doesn’t eat his veggies. Dave Eggers, author of A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius* did not have that
choice. At age 21, his family fell apart when both of his parents died within
five weeks of each other. Dave was forced to become primary caregiver for his youngest
brother, Toph, who was eight at the time of his parent’s death. I don’t know
about you guys, but at age 21 I was learning the art of a mixed drink, not the
art of convincing little kids that brushing your teeth is important. Admittedly,
I had to Google “what do eight year olds do” to finish the last part of the
previous sentence. I didn’t find anything interesting, so I guess I’m going the
eight-year-olds-probably-brush-their-teeth-or-at-least-they-should route.
Dave’s transition from playful
older brother to roommate/father figure was as tumultuous as I expected. I didn't necessarily expect Dave’s gripping prose. He straddled the
threshold of adulthood/responsibility and youth/recklessness, and he
unhesitatingly lobotomizes himself for readers, allowing us to penetrate the
depths of his struggles and confusion. He writes with a manic-depressive tone, excitedly
portraying his predicament as an opportunity in one breath and dejectedly
reflecting on the martyrdom of his twenties in another. On the one
hand, he has “this amazing chance to right the wrongs of [his] own upbringing”
(Eggers, 117). Toph’s “brain is [his] laboratory” where Dave can input his own
life views and raise Toph in a way that specifically corrects the mistakes his
own parents made (Eggers, 49). On the other hand, this duty to rightly-raise
his kin leaves no margin for error. No pressure or anything. Dave is
overwhelmed with guilt as he (semi-jokingly) questions whether his poor
cooking/cleaning skills and his inability to show up anywhere on time will
result in Toph growing up to be a mass murderer or pet torturer.
Dave’s life is worth reading in and
of itself, but his ability to be terribly funny amidst his terrible tragedies makes it a best-seller. He’s
a self-conscious smart ass who manages to even make the typically bland
Copyrights page laugh-out-loud amusing. He combines Nick Flynn’s poetic insight
in Another Bullshit Night in Suck City
with Joseph Heller’s satirical witticisms in Catch-22. Still, Dave's comedy does not
shroud his brutal honesty. He talks about really sad stuff in really
intimate ways.
When I originally picked up this
book-- at the astute recommendation of my book-loving friend Shreya—I thought
the title was merely goofy and dramatic. Eggers is both goofy and dramatic… but
the story is truly heartbreaking and the writing is staggeringly genius. It
resonated with me by reminding me of my dear relationship with my youngest brother (Pic on left: 2015, reasonably spaced eyebrows. Pic on right: 2005, questionably spaced eyebrows).
I think it will resonate with you too, even if you don't have a little monkey, so I give this book 5
out of 5 camel humps.
*Eggers, Dave. A
Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius. New York: Vintage Books, 2000.
Print.
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